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Family says the no-tip check with homophobic hate-note is a hoax

I’ve been locked in a death battle with some faulty NBC New York embed code trying to fix it to post here. They have an exclusive story this morning, of a family who says the much-reported homophobic nastygram scrawled on a no-tip check is a hoax.

They say they recognized the check because they have one just like it, with the same date, time stamp, but not the same total. Theirs, they say, is that total – plus a healthy tip. And they say that homophobic message was added after them, and not in their handwriting. In the NBC interview, they say they’re not homophobic, and voted against Chris Christie because he blocked marriage equality.

CHeck comparison Gallop Asian BistroAnd they showed NBC’s reporter what they say is their copy of that check, with a tip. Plus what they identify as their VISA card statement showing their amount included tip.

Dayna Morales, who says she was a Marine, set up a paypal account after she reported a slight; thousands of dollars poured in. She maintains that money will go to Wounded Warrior Project.

NBC New York’s story produced an entirely-predictable slew of lesbian-hating and liberal-hating verbiage on Facebook.

What do you think, Blue Jersey? Of server Dayna Morales’ response to questions? The restaurant owner, who says he has an original ticket with the no-tip amount, but doesn’t produce it for the reporter? Watch the video. What’s your take?


“I’m sorry but I cannot tip because I don’t agree with your lifestyle and how you live your life.”

UPDATE: Restaurant says the homophobic cheapskates aren’t welcome back.

UPDATE#2: Dayna Morales, a former Marine, is donating funds sent to her by supporters to Wounded Warrior Project.


I must have seen a dozen Facebook hits of this pop up in my news feed before I realized it allegedly happened at a restaurant I drive past frequently, 10 minutes from my house, which was only because my friend Walter O’Brien posted about it last night at NJ.com.

Dayna Morales, the server who says she got no tip and the homophobic message scrawled on the $93.55 check a family racked up, posted at Facebook’s Have a Gay Day. On that site, so far, 2,172 shares of the photo of the check, 6,297 Likes, and plenty of people offering to reimburse her at $1 a pop. Also, thanks for her service (Morales was a Marine), and suggestions people visit the restaurant and request her service. Even before she dropped the check, Morales says the family insulted her, the mother remarking she thought Dayna was a “Dan” because, apparently, of her short hair.

It’s not the first time we’ve seen this. Last month, another gay-bashing cheapskate in Kansas City. Racist asshole at Red Lobster in Tennessee (not to mention the party of 25 kept waiting in South Carolina for 2 hours then denied service because a white customer was “afraid”).

What’s going on? The same thread of holier-than-thou self-righteousness unites all these incidents. Is there some religious institution somewhere telling all the racists and bigots to fan out and hit restaurants?

Want to see the full check? It’s below the fold.

Don’t you be worrying about Steve Lonegan’s man Rick Shaftan. He’s still got Nick Sacco.

I would say that anybody who employed Rick “Hot Breasts” Shaftan before this happened is in the clear. I presume strategist/pollster Shaftan is good at his job, and I get why people hire him. He’s no dummy. But I have to wonder at a Democrat’s loyalty to Shaftan right now. What message is Nick Sacco sending to the women he represents? The gay people? The Democrat on Wednesday’s ballot?

via The Jersey Journal:

Rick Shaftan, who lost his Lonegan campaign gig after he ridiculed Lonegan opponent Newark Mayor Cory Booker in a lengthy interview last week with political site Talking Points Memo, has made big bucks working for Sacco’s campaigns since the 1990s. And Sacco spokesman Paul Swibinski said that won’t stop.

What a relief. Here I was worried that the mighty righty Rovian captain would be hurting for jingle. But fear not. The brains behind Shutdown Steve Lonegan is the brains behind the Democratic song stylings of Nick Sacco. Look at the choice of words Sacco spokesman Phil Swibinski uses to defend Shaftan’s behavior:

“He [Sacco] wishes that Rick had never made those comments. “They don’t sound like him … I’ve never known Rick to judge anybody based on their sexuality.”

Really. Let me clue you in: The Lonegan campaign has been one long series of clever innuendo implying that Cory Booker is gay, and that there’s something wrong with that.

  • That Lonegan “likes being a guy,” implying Booker is something less than one.

  • If Booker gets a manicure or pedicure (as was reported that the night owl sometimes does at 3am) it’s an unmanly fetish.

  • That it’s weird if Booker “won’t refute” gay rumors (that they pump out)

    It’s all very passive-aggressive. Just the kind of thing a clever strategist would know how to spoon out: Just enough to excite Tea Partiers askeered of teh gays, not so directly that it’s not deniable. Homophobic crap, no less serious because it’s cleverly framed. And Sacco’s never known Shaftan to judge anybody based on their sexuality? Bull. Sacco knows exactly who’s been framing all that homophobic innuendo. Seriously. Keep the guy if you feel you should, but don’t play dumb.

    Saw this coming, right? After the Sacco team’s chat with Jersey Journal, Swibinski called the paper back to insist Sacco “strongly supports Cory Booker”.

  • Doesn’t Steve Lonegan realize he already had the homophobic asshole vote sewed up?

    Because, he-man ragged toenails:

    “Maybe that helps to get him the gay vote, by acting ambiguous. It’s kind of weird,” Lonegan added. “As a guy, I personally like being a guy.”

    And, Lonegan noted, “I don’t know if you saw the stories last year. They’ve been out for quite a bit about how he likes to go out at three o’clock in the morning for a manicure and a pedicure.”

    “I don’t like going out in the middle of the night or any time of the day for a manicure and pedicure. It was described as his peculiar fetish, is how it was described,” Lonegan said. “I have a more peculiar fetish; I like a good Scotch and a cigar; that’s my fetish, but we’ll just compare the two.”

    NYTimes Lead on Rutgers Basketball Ignores Misogyny

    Mmm hmm. Promoted by Rosi

    In what seems like good news for Rutgers basketball players and fans, the state university of New Jersey hired Eddie Jordan to coach their team.

    But in the New York Times’ reporting on it there’s something missing.  See if you can find it, or not find it.

    Rutgers is set to introduce Eddie Jordan as the university’s new basketball coach on Tuesday, less than a month after the former coach Mike Rice was fired after video of him abusing his players – including shouting homophobic slurs at them and throwing balls at them – was broadcast on television and on the Internet.

    OK, so I let the cat out of the bag in the subject, but it’s the use of negative references to women to belittle the young men on the team.  The anti-gay statements get referenced, but Rice also used p_ssy, c_nt, b_tch_s and other words to insult and rip his players.

    No slander and bigotry is OK, but it does seem like the insults to women often get short shrift when other populations are also being insulted.