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There's no baby being thrown out here - just a missed opportunity for healing

by: Jeff Gardner

Tue Feb 09, 2010 at 03:11:25 PM EST



How utterly disappointing the response from the new Democratic State Committee Chair, John Wisniewski, was to Garden State Equality's recent announcement that it would no longer donate to political party committees:
"Some very good Democrats stood up and supported this issue on the floor of the senate," said Wisniewski. "To hurl a broadside against the one party that stood up for this and say the effort wasn't good enough is throwing the baby out with the bath water."
Um, no it's not. It's not anything like that. There are no babies being thrown out here. As a clever friend put it on hearing the Chair's statement:
No, they are taking the baby out of the cold, slimy, dirty bath water and then giving it a big, warm hug with a fluffy nice towel.

The baby is the group of legislators who stood up for civil rights and equality.

The cold, slimy, dirty bath water is the party organization that refused to stand up for civil rights and equality.

What the Wiz should have said was "I understand where they're coming from." Or "we're going to continue to work to earn the support of all our members." Or even "I hope in time they'll reconsider their decision." Nope. None of the above.

Instead, he went on to say simply that "Not all of our members will agree with other members," though I'm not sure what point that's supposed to make. Well, guess what? Not all of your donors will agree with all of your members either. And when they don't, why would they want to give financial support to those members? (Answer: they wouldn't.)

But, they did, and do, and will continue to support the very good Democrats (and others) who stood up and supported this issue on the floor of the senate and elsewhere. It would have been far more productive and encouraging to hear the Chair acknowledge that fact, and to pledge to help heal the still-fresh wounds from the recent legislative loss.

A big tent doesn't just welcome the donations of time, money and support from a diversity of communities. It stands up for all those communities when it matters most, and works its hardest to keep them in the tent.  

Jeff Gardner :: There's no baby being thrown out here - just a missed opportunity for healing
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Money shot (3.50 / 2)
A big tent doesn't just welcome the donations of time, money and support from a diversity of communities. It stands up for all those communities when it matters most, and works its hardest to keep them in the tent.  

This is the way democracy works - if a given legislator doesn't support the goals of a community, they withhold support.  How disappointing that the DEMOCRATIC Party has such a low opinion of democracy.

But living in the land of Drunkamyassa Healy, I'm used to no one caring what I think.

To hell with what she wants, let's make Rosi Efthim the next DSC chair.


Core values mean something (3.80 / 5)
There are many Democratic state senators who understand that gay equality is a fundamental value and voted accordingly in January. That some people, including some in the leadership, don't understand this says they have a lot to learn about what is a fundamental value to a key constituency. Gay equality is not a "nice-to-have" luxury. It's something that strikes at the core of how an entire category of people in our state - people who in the past have been counted on for their time, money, volunteering, and votes - live their lives. This is a core value and if the Democratic Party as an institution doesn't "get it" on this, it only stands to reason that the gay dollar and support should only go to those individual members who do "get it."

Not just LGBTs (4.00 / 4)
You can include straights who support equal rights for all in your comment, Aegletes, because there are many of us associated w/ GSE.  I am, because I believe that to deny LGBTs their full civil rights is to harm society as a whole.  Dems who miss that shouldn't be Dems.

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Which is why we love our straight allies (4.00 / 2)
I'm sure I speak for many when I say that I've been moved beyond words at the vocal and energetic support of so many straight people these past few months. So I understand what you mean. When Wisniewski thumbs his nose, he does so at a vast group of people who care about what I had thought was a core value of the Democratic Party: equality.

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Not just LGBTs (4.00 / 1)
The lack of leadership is appalling.

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bath water (4.00 / 4)
one man's 'throwing the baby out w. the bathwater" is another man's "saving the baby from drowning."



  • Jay_Lass on Twitter.

  • a better analogy (4.00 / 1)
    a better analogy is we're throwing out the dirty bong water after the bowl is cashed.

    medicinal, of course.

  • Jay_Lass on Twitter.

  • The real test of this bold statement... (3.00 / 1)
    will be if Baroni gets contributions while Sweeney and Van Drew, and the other NAY/NOT votes are denied. If this proclamation from GSE is true, they should financially support whomever - regardless of D or R - voted for equality.  

    well (4.00 / 1)
    Since they have backed Baroni in the past I'm not sure why you seem so skeptical.


    I have to think of a witty signature about Frank LoBiondo

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    Mary Pat Angelini (0.00 / 0)
    ....got their endorsement as well.  she's a pro-equality GOPer.  

    Otherwise there are very few, including zero as far as I know in the NJ congressional delegation.  

  • Jay_Lass on Twitter.

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    13 Democrats and 1 Republican (0.00 / 0)
    Will that be the ratio, 13-1, on dollars for Democrats?

    "The modern conservative is engaged in one of man's oldest exercises in moral philosophy; that is, the search for a superior moral justification for selfishness."
    --John Kenneth Galbraith



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    Right on (0.00 / 0)
    GSE's action has made me once again proud to be a member. We will not win by being taken for granted. Assemblyman Wisniewski, the party did not "stand up for this." If it had, we would not be having this conversation.  

    Wisniewski misses the point (4.00 / 2)
    The announcement from GSE was simply that it would no longer donate to parties.  The defensiveness of the chairman's response is telling; he calls it a "broadside" and claims the Dems "stood up for this".  
    As an advocacy group, GSE is simply putting its  money where it can get the best for it's dollar; why waste money on someone that clearly is antagonistic or not supportive of GSE's goals?

    Wizzer is just pissed (0.00 / 0)
    he's going to have less money to pass around to people that hate gays.  Poor boy.  Not even in charge for a month and things are going to hell in a handbasket.

    To hell with what she wants, let's make Rosi Efthim the next DSC chair.

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