You’ll remember me, I think. I lobbied you a few weeks ago, on the issue of marriage equality. I was representing the several thousand New Jersey members of Democracy for America in this state, DFA-NJ, and the thousands of readers of this political website.
I wasn’t there advocating for myself. Any change in marriage law in this state will not affect me personally. I was in the room with you because bringing marriage law that affects gay people to parity with what is available to you, and to me, Senator, is the right thing to do. I’m straight, and I stand behind, and with gay people who are asking you to take a leadership role – not a mere vote – in making this right.
According to reports, you just minutes ago advised a group of local officials that it is the economy and not marriage equality that is important. And that now is not the time to drive marriage equality through a vote in the legislature.
Senator, I lobbied you along with a religious leader, the leaders of several other Democratic-activist groups, and a couple who have spent their lives in the care of children, and who told you first-hand the ways in which their state’s marriage law has let them – and their children – down. Your response, Senator, was so encouraging. You gave us more than 90 minutes at the end of a long day. You listened with unmistakeable empathy.
I’m writing now, because I am merely angry and disappointed. My gay friends – some of whom you met that day – are devastated.
We expected so much more of you, personally, and I hope that you will reconsider. So we lost the governor’s race. So, the new guy is not a supporter of marriage equality, and thinks civil unions are fine. I think you know better than that, and I think you know better than Mr. Christie knows.
If you become – as you suggest – our new Senate President, I am asking that your leadership emerge now, and that you show some solidarity now to people who have not only been the strongest supporters of your Party, but who have waited long enough. You know that bringing this law to parity for gay families does nothing to delay the legislature’s ability to tackle our economy.
You know better.
What the hell are you thinking?